Course curriculum

  • 1

    Mentor - Before We Begin - How To Start Your Journey

    • The Purpose Of We're Changing It

    • The Big Idea Summary Video Explained

    • We're Changing It - Guidance Videos Explained

    • We're Changing It - Bonus Material Explained

    • Clarifying Key Terms

    • What Does It Mean To Change A Narrative?

    • What Is A "Narrative?"

    • What Is A "Shift?"

    • What Does "Wholeness" Mean?

    • What Does "Identity" Mean?

    • How Do I Use The Workbook?

    • Do I Need To Watch Each Of The 20 Concepts In Order?

    • How Do The Change Your Narrative Books Tie Into This Course?

  • 2

    Mentee - Before We Begin - How To Start Your Journey

    • Welcome To The Course

    • What Does It Mean To Change A Narrative?

    • Clarifying Key Terms

    • What Is A “Narrative?”

    • What Is A “Shift?”

    • What Does “Wholeness” Mean?

    • What Does “Identity” Mean?

    • How Do I Use The Workbook?

    • Do I Need To Watch Each Of The 20 Concepts In Order?

    • How Do The Change Your Narrative Books Tie Into This Course?

  • 3

    Mentor - Concept #1 - What Is A Narrative?

    • The Big Idea

    • Unpacking Exercise #2 - Linear Or Abstract Processing

    • Guidance Tips

    • What This Means For Me - Worksheet

    • What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet

    • Introducing Concept #2 - Taking Back The Pen

  • 4

    Mentee - Concept #1 - What Is A Narrative?

    • What Is A Narrative?

    • Exercise #1 - I Used To Believe... But Now I Believe...

    • A Moment Of Pause

    • Is It Possible?

    • They Used To Believe

    • Two Options - Linear Or Abstract Processing

    • Exercise #2: Option A - Linear Processing

    • Exercise #2: Option B - Abstract Processing

    • Two Additional Questions

    • Letting Your Story Out - Safely

    • Overriding Fear

    • What This Concept Meant For Me

    • What I Hope This Concept Means For You

    • Introducing Concept #2 - "Taking Back The Pen"

  • 5

    Mentor - Concept #2 - Taking Back The Pen

    • The Big Idea

    • Defining Authors

    • Unpacking Exercise #1 - Who Is Who?

    • Guidance Tips - How To Label

    • Guidance Tips - Navigating Their Switch

    • Unpacking Exercise #2 - Addressing Authors

    • Guidance Tips - Giving The Pen Away

    • Guidance Tips- Honoring The Trustworthy

    • What This Means For Me - Worksheet

    • What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet

    • Introducing Concept #3 - Victim Is Not Your Name Tag

  • 6

    Mentee - Concept #2 - Taking Back The Pen

    • Returning To The Narrative

    • What Does It Mean To Take Back The Pen?

    • Who Are Your Authors?

    • Untrustworthy Authors

    • Dark Authors

    • Trustworthy Authors

    • Exercise #1 - Who Is Who?

    • What To Do When It's Hard To Label

    • What To Do When They Shift Their Role

    • Addressing Your Authors - The Letter

    • Addressing When You Gave The Pen Away

    • Addressing The Trustworthy

    • Affirming The Trustworthy

    • What "Taking Back The Pen" Meant For Me

    • What I Hope "Taking Back The Pen" Means For You

    • Introducing Concept #3 - "Victim Is Not My Name Tag"

  • 7

    Mentor - Concept #3 - Victim Is Not Your Name Tag

    • The Big Idea

    • Unpacking Exercise #1 - What Is Written?

    • Unpacking Exercise #2 - The Clay Pot

    • Guidance Tips - True Identity

    • What This Meant For Me - Worksheet

    • What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet

    • Introducing Concept #4 - "What Is Truth?"

  • 8

    Mentee - Concept #3 - Victim Is Not Your Name Tag

    • What Is A Name Tag?

    • I Am Moana

    • Victim Is Not Your Name Tag

    • Exercise #1 - Removing False Labels

    • Peeling Off The Tag

    • The Clay Pots

    • Exercise #2 - Processing The Exercise

    • Exercise #3 - Who You Truly Are

    • What "Victim Is Not Your Name Tag" Meant For Me

    • What I Hope "Victim Is Not Your Name Tag" Means For You

    • Introducing Concept #4 - "What Is Truth?"

  • 9

    Mentor - Concept #4 - What Is Truth?

    • The Big Idea

    • Guidance Tips - Deny, Distort, Distract

    • Guidance Tips - Inviting Others In

    • Unpacking Exercise #1 - Addressing The Past

    • Guidance Tips - Why Truth?

    • Unpacking Exercise #2 -Defining Immovable Truth

    • What This Means For Me - Worksheet

    • What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet

    • Introducing Concept #5 - How To Get Out Of The Box

  • 10

    Mentee - Concept #4 - What Is Truth?

    • What Is Truth?

    • Deny, Distort, Distract

    • Inviting Others In

    • How To Invite Them In

    • Exercise #1 - Naming Your Truth

    • Exercise #2 - What Is Truth? - Part 2

    • What The Concept "What Is Truth?" Meant For Me

    • What I Hope "What Is Truth?" Means For You

    • Introducing Concept #5 - "How To Get Out Of The Box"

  • 11

    Mentor - Concept #5 - How To Get Out Of The Box

    • The Big Idea

    • Guidance Tips - Assigning Appropriate Responsibility

    • Unpacking Exercise #1 - The Letter

    • Guidance Tips - Adding Professional Help

    • Guidance Tips - Name Your Box

    • Guidance Tips - The Open Flap

    • What This Means For Me - Worksheet

    • What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet

    • Introducing Concept #6 - Breaking Cause And Effect

  • 12

    Mentee - Concept #5 - How To Get Out Of The Box

    • Out Of The Box

    • Assigning Appropriate Responsibility

    • Exercise #1 - Revisiting The Letter

    • Exercise #2 - Name Your Box

    • Processing The Exercise

    • The Open Flap

    • What The Concept "How To Get Out Of The Box" Meant For Me

    • What I Hope "How To Get Out Of The Box" Means For You

    • Introducing Concept #6 - Breaking Cause And Effect

  • 13

    Mentor - Concept #6 - Breaking Broken Cause And Effect

    • The Big Idea

    • Unpacking Exercise #1 - Breaking It Down

    • Guidance Tips - Being Bitter

    • Guidance Tips - Attending To Bitterness

    • What This Meant For Me - Worksheet

    • What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet

    • Introducing Concept #7 - "The 5 Journey Markers Of Wholeness"

  • 14

    Mentee - Concept #6 - Breaking Broken Cause And Effect

    • Breaking Broken Cause And Effect

    • X & Y

    • Breaking It Apart

    • Processing The Break

    • Defining Bitterness

    • Defining Jaded

    • Three Ways To Break Broken

    • Have A Conversation

    • Place Boundaries

    • Walk Away

    • What The Concept "Breaking Cause And Effect" Meant For Me

    • What I Hope The Concept "Breaking Cause And Effect" Means For You

    • Introducing Concept #7 - The 5 Journey Markers Of Wholeness

  • 15

    Mentor - Concept #7 - The 5 Journey Markers Of Wholeness

    • The Big Idea

    • Guidance Tips - Summarizing The Markers

    • Guidance Tips - Using The Worksheets

    • Guidance Tips - Self-Care During Ownership

    • Guidance Tips - Guilt Versus Shame

    • Guidance Tips - Community Mourning

    • What This Means For Me - Worksheet

    • What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet

    • Introducing Concept #8 - "Schedule Silence"

  • 16

    Mentee - Concept #7 - The 5 Journey Markers Of Wholeness

    • The Journey

    • Realize

    • Realization And Wholeness

    • Exercise #1 - Processing Realization

    • Acknowledge

    • Identify

    • Self-Care During Ownership

    • Guilt & Shame

    • To Identify - Part 2

    • Accept

    • Community Mourning

    • Proceed

    • What The Concept "The 5 Journey Markers Of Wholeness" Have Meant For Me

    • What I Hope "The 5 Journey Markers Of Wholeness" Mean For You

    • Introducing Concept #8 - Schedule Silence

  • 17

    Mentor - Concept #8 - Schedule Silence

    • The Big Idea

    • Guidance Tips - Defining Silence

    • Unpacking Exercise #1 - Why Silence?

    • Guidance Tips - Using Silence

    • Unpacking Exercise #2 - Processing Together

    • What This Means For Me - Worksheet

    • What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet

    • Introducing Concept #9 - "What If Tomorrow Were Stronger Than Yesterday?"

  • 18

    Mentee - Concept #8 - Schedule Silence

    • To Schedule Silence

    • Making Time

    • Noisy Silence

    • Exercise #1 - Entering Silence

    • Plan For Silence

    • Exercise #2 - Diving In

    • What "Scheduling Silence" Meant For Me

    • What I Hope "Scheduling Silence" Means For You

    • Introducing Concept #9 - What If Tomorrow Were Stronger Than Yesterday?

  • 19

    Mentor - Concept #9 - What If Tomorrow Were Stronger Than Yesterday?

    • The Big Idea

    • Unpacking Exercise #1 - Defining Restoration

    • Guidance Tips - The Hook

    • Guidance Tips - Owning Personal Responsibility

    • Unpacking Exercise #2 - Finding Roadblocks

    • What This Means For Me - Worksheet

    • What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet

    • Introducing Concept #10 - "You Are More"

  • 20

    Mentee - Concept #9 - What If Tomorrow Were Stronger Than Yesterday?

    • What If Tomorrow Were Stronger Than Yesterday?

    • Kintsugi

    • Restoration - The Starting Point

    • Exercise #1 - Processing Restoration

    • No Origin

    • Trauma's Short Circuit

    • I Did This

    • Revisiting The Distinction Between Guilt & Shame

    • What The Concept "What If Tomorrow Were Stronger Than Yesterday?" Meant For Me

    • What I Hope The Concept "What If Tomorrow Were Stronger Than Yesterday?" Means For You

    • Introducing Concept #10 - "You Are More"

  • 21

    Mentor - Concept #10 - You Are More

    • The Big Idea

    • Guidance Tips - Three Sources

    • Guidance Tips - Let Them Rise

    • They Are Not

    • They Are

    • They Are Becoming

    • They Will Be

    • What This Means For Me - Worksheet

    • What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet

    • Introducing Concept #11 - "Failure Is Not Your Identity"

  • 22

    Mentee - Concept #10 - You Are More

    • The Value

    • The Voices

    • External Voices

    • "Self-Preservation" Speaks

    • The Internal Voice

    • Let Them Rise

    • You Are Not

    • You Are

    • You Are Becoming

    • You Will Be

    • The Warrior Voice

    • What The Concept "You Are More" Meant For Me

    • What I Hope The Concept "You Are More" Means For You

    • Introducing Concept #11 - "Failure Is Not Your Identity"

  • 23

    Mentor - Concept #11 - Failure Is Not Your Identity

    • The Big Idea

    • Guidance Tips - The 5 Keys

    • Maneuver Through Shock Or Shame

    • Seek The Diamond

    • Assign Grace

    • Learn

    • Find The Open Door

    • Unpacking Exercise #1 - Processing "Failure"

    • What This Means For Me - Worksheet

    • What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet

    • Introducing Concept #12 - Choosing Hope

  • 24

    Mentee - Concept #11 - Failure Is Not Your Identity

    • Not Your Identity

    • Which Net?

    • Maneuver Through

    • Seek The Diamond

    • Assign Yourself Grace

    • Brutus

    • Amanda

    • Learn

    • Find The Open Door

    • Exercise #1 - Processing "Failure"

    • What The Concept "Failure Is Not Your Identity" Meant For Me

    • What I Hope "Failure Is Not Your Identity" Means For You

    • Introducing Concept #12 - "Choosing Hope"

  • 25

    Mentor - Concept #12 - Choosing Hope

    • The Big Idea

    • Guidance Tips - Defining Hope

    • Guidance Tips - Sourcing Hope

    • Guidance Tips - A Word About Having Conversations About Hope

    • Unpacking Exercise #1 - Defining Perspective

    • Guidance Tips - Building Legacy

    • What This Means For Me - Worksheet

    • What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet

    • Introducing Concept #13 - "Perseverance And Endurance"

  • 26

    Mentee - Concept #12 - Choosing Hope

    • The Spark

    • What Is Hope?

    • Placing Hope

    • Exercise #1 - Contemplating Hope

    • The Tension

    • Pictures Of Hope

    • My Relationship With Hope

    • My Reason For Hope

    • Exercise #2 - How Hope Creates A Legacy

    • What The Concept "Choosing Hope" Meant For Me

    • What I Hope The Concept "Choosing Hope" Means For You

    • Introducing Concept #13 - Perseverance And Endurance

  • 27

    Mentor - Concept #13 - Perseverance And Endurance

    • The Big Idea

    • Guidance Tips - What It's Not

    • Guidance Tips - Processing Builds Perseverance

    • Allowed To Rest

    • Allowed To Play

    • Allowed To Invest

    • Allowed To Dream

    • Guidance Tips - The Art Of Reset

    • Guidance Tips - Community

    • What This Means For Me - Worksheet

    • What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet

    • Introducing Concept #14 - "Define Your Why"

  • 28

    Mentee - Concept #13 - Perseverance And Endurance

    • What Is Perseverance And Endurance?

    • What It's Not

    • Overriding "Suck It Up"

    • The Ripple Effect

    • Seek What Refuels

    • You Are Allowed To Rest

    • You Are Allowed To Play

    • You Are Allowed To Invest In You

    • You Are Allowed To Dream

    • The Reset

    • Seeking Community

    • We Train In Community

    • What The Concept "Perseverance And Endurance" Meant For Me

    • What I Hope "Perseverance And Endurance" Means For You

    • Introducing Concept #14 - "Define Your Why"

  • 29

    Mentor - Concept #14 - Define Your Why

    • The Big Idea

    • Unpacking Exercise #1 - Defining Motivation

    • Unpacking Exercise #2 - Discovering Why

    • Guidance Tips - Why We Didn't

    • Guidance Tips - The Plan

    • What This Means For Me - Worksheet

    • What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet

    • Introducing Concept #15 - Fake It Till You Make It

  • 30

    Mentee - Concept #14 - Define Your Why

    • Define Your Why

    • Why I Fight - Exercise #1 - Define Your Why

    • Why Do We Rise?

    • Give Yourself Time

    • Exercise #2 - Pressing On

    • Why I Didn't

    • A Safety Plan

    • What The Concept "Define Your Why" Meant For Me

    • What I Hope "Define Your Why" Means For You

    • Introducing Concept #15 - "Fake It Till You Make It"

  • 31

    Mentor - Concept #15 - Fake It Till You Make It

    • The Big Idea

    • Guidance Tips - Trying Something New

    • Guidance Tips - Setting A Boundary

    • Guidance Tips - Learning To Share

    • Guidance Tips - Building A Team

    • Unpacking Exercise #1

    • Guidance Tips - Lent Before Learned

    • Unpacking Exercise #2

    • What This Means For Me - Worksheet

    • What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet

    • Introducing Concept #16 - Find Your 'But"

  • 32

    Mentee - Concept #15 - Fake It Till You Make It

    • What "Fake It Till You Make It" Means

    • Defining "Faking"

    • Trying Something New

    • Setting A Boundary

    • Learning To Share

    • Building A Team

    • Exercise #1 - Processing The Feeling Of "Fake"

    • Re-Instill Hope

    • Lent Before Learned

    • Exercise #2 - Processing Confidence And Courage

    • What The Concept "Fake It Till You Make It" Meant For Me

    • What I Hope "Fake It Till You Make It" Means For You

    • Introducing Concept #16 - "Find Your 'But'"

  • 33

    Mentor - Concept #16 - Find Your "But"

    • The Big Idea

    • Unpacking Exercise #1

    • Unpacking Exercise #2

    • Unpacking Exercise #3

    • Guidance Tips - How To Argue Well

    • What This Means For Me - Worksheet

    • What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet

    • Introducing Concept #17 - "How To Hold Onto The New"

  • 34

    Mentee - Concept #16 - Find Your "But"

    • Find Your "But"

    • The Third Option

    • Exercise #1 - Unpacking The Story

    • Continuing To Unpack

    • Back To Reality

    • How To Argue Well

    • What The Concept "Find Your 'But'" Meant For Me

    • What I Hope "Find Your 'But'" Means For You

    • Introducing Concept #17 - "How To Hold Onto The New"

  • 35

    Mentor - Concept #17 - How To Hold Onto The New

    • The Big Idea

    • Guidance Tips - Rewriting The Story

    • Guidance Tips - Watching Speech

    • Guidance Tips - Taking Calculated Risks

    • Guidance Tips - Teaching Others

    • Guidance Tips - Who You Are

    • Unpacking Exercise #1

    • What This Means For Me - Worksheet

    • What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet

    • Introducing Concept #18 - "How To Find Support"

  • 36

    Mentee - Concept #17 - How To Hold Onto The New

    • Holding On

    • Rewrite Your Story

    • Exercise #1 - Reflecting On Your Shift

    • Watch Your Speech - Exercise #2: Old Versus New

    • Take Calculated Risks - Exercise #3: Defining The Risk

    • Teach Others - Exercise #4: Supporting Others

    • Getting To Know You

    • Exercise #5 - But Who Are You?

    • What The Concept "How To Hold Onto The New" Meant For Me

    • What I Hope "Holding Onto The New" Means For You

    • Introducing Concept #18 - "How To Find Support"

  • 37

    Mentor - Concept #18 - How To Find Support

    • The Big Idea

    • Guidance Tips - Building Your Board

    • Guidance Tips - Rejecting Abandonment

    • Guidance Tips - Their Trustworthy Authors

    • Guidance Tips - Community Gatherings

    • Guidance Tips - Professional Support

    • Unpacking Exercise #1 - Making The Ask

    • Guidance Tips - Vetting Support

    • What This Means For Me - Worksheet

    • What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet

    • Introducing Concept #19 - "We Are Proud"

  • 38

    Mentee - Concept #18 - How To Find Support

    • Finding It

    • Building Your Board

    • The Paper

    • Where To Turn

    • Trustworthy Authors

    • Community Gatherings

    • Professional Support

    • Exercise #1 - Starting The Search

    • Vetting Your Support

    • What The Concept "How To Find Support" Meant For Me

    • What I Hope "How To Find Support" Means For You

    • Introducing Concept #19 - "We Are Proud"

  • 39

    Mentor - Concept #19 - We Are Proud

    • The Big Idea

    • Guidance Tips - Changing And Changed

    • Unpacking Exercise #1

    • Guidance Tips - Celebrate

    • What This Means For You - Worksheet

  • 40

    Mentee - Concept #19 - We Are Proud

    • We Are Proud

    • Changed & Changing

    • Exercise #1 - Changed & Changing

    • Celebrate You

  • 41

    Mentor - Concept #20 - I Changed It

    • Our Story As A Bridge

  • 42

    Mentee - Concept #20 - I Changed It

    • I Changed It

    • My Story

    • We're Changing It - Exercise #1: Reflecting Back

    • Exercise #2 - Continuing To Process

    • I Am Rooting For You

    • What I Hope "I Changed It" Means For You

  • 43

    We're Changing It - Bonus Material

    • Your Role Is Vital

    • The Gift Of Going Second

    • How Do I Help Them? What Do They Need?

    • Reiterating Why You Offer Support

    • How To Have Healthy Boundaries

    • What Do They Need?

    • How To Use Your Story To Guide Someone Else's

    • What To Do When Someone Shares About Their Pain Or Struggle

    • How To Know What To Say When Someone Shares About Trauma, Pain, Or Struggle

    • What Do I Do If I Don't Have All The Answers?

    • How To React When Someone Shares About Pain, Trauma, Or Struggle

    • What If I Hear Something That Feels Too Big To Handle Or Is Triggering?

    • Learning To Point

    • What Additional Resources Are Available For Them - And For You

    • Building A Mental Health Safety Plan

    • If I Suspect They Are Struggling, Can I Bring It Up?

    • How To Start Hard Conversations

    • What To Do If They Push Back Against Help

    • Helping Someone Process The Distinction Between Guilt And Shame

    • How To Help Someone Process Assigning Appropriate Responsibility

    • Helping Someone To See A Future

    • Giving Them Time To Heal

    • You Have Not Failed

    • What Is Wholeness?

    • Helping Them See Their Identity