We can not change someone's story for them, but we can journey with the as they learn how to:
Recognize the authors who have impacted their story.
Take back the pen.
Define their why - and redefine their try, pointing their life story in the direction they want it to go.
The Purpose Of We're Changing It
The Big Idea Summary Video Explained
We're Changing It - Guidance Videos Explained
We're Changing It - Bonus Material Explained
Clarifying Key Terms
What Does It Mean To Change A Narrative?
What Is A "Narrative?"
What Is A "Shift?"
What Does "Wholeness" Mean?
What Does "Identity" Mean?
How Do I Use The Workbook?
Do I Need To Watch Each Of The 20 Concepts In Order?
How Do The Change Your Narrative Books Tie Into This Course?
Welcome To The Course
What Does It Mean To Change A Narrative?
Clarifying Key Terms
What Is A “Narrative?”
What Is A “Shift?”
What Does “Wholeness” Mean?
What Does “Identity” Mean?
How Do I Use The Workbook?
Do I Need To Watch Each Of The 20 Concepts In Order?
How Do The Change Your Narrative Books Tie Into This Course?
The Big Idea
Unpacking Exercise #2 - Linear Or Abstract Processing
Guidance Tips
What This Means For Me - Worksheet
What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet
Introducing Concept #2 - Taking Back The Pen
What Is A Narrative?
Exercise #1 - I Used To Believe... But Now I Believe...
A Moment Of Pause
Is It Possible?
They Used To Believe
Two Options - Linear Or Abstract Processing
Exercise #2: Option A - Linear Processing
Exercise #2: Option B - Abstract Processing
Two Additional Questions
Letting Your Story Out - Safely
Overriding Fear
What This Concept Meant For Me
What I Hope This Concept Means For You
Introducing Concept #2 - "Taking Back The Pen"
The Big Idea
Defining Authors
Unpacking Exercise #1 - Who Is Who?
Guidance Tips - How To Label
Guidance Tips - Navigating Their Switch
Unpacking Exercise #2 - Addressing Authors
Guidance Tips - Giving The Pen Away
Guidance Tips- Honoring The Trustworthy
What This Means For Me - Worksheet
What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet
Introducing Concept #3 - Victim Is Not Your Name Tag
Returning To The Narrative
What Does It Mean To Take Back The Pen?
Who Are Your Authors?
Untrustworthy Authors
Dark Authors
Trustworthy Authors
Exercise #1 - Who Is Who?
What To Do When It's Hard To Label
What To Do When They Shift Their Role
Addressing Your Authors - The Letter
Addressing When You Gave The Pen Away
Addressing The Trustworthy
Affirming The Trustworthy
What "Taking Back The Pen" Meant For Me
What I Hope "Taking Back The Pen" Means For You
Introducing Concept #3 - "Victim Is Not My Name Tag"
The Big Idea
Unpacking Exercise #1 - What Is Written?
Unpacking Exercise #2 - The Clay Pot
Guidance Tips - True Identity
What This Meant For Me - Worksheet
What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet
Introducing Concept #4 - "What Is Truth?"
What Is A Name Tag?
I Am Moana
Victim Is Not Your Name Tag
Exercise #1 - Removing False Labels
Peeling Off The Tag
The Clay Pots
Exercise #2 - Processing The Exercise
Exercise #3 - Who You Truly Are
What "Victim Is Not Your Name Tag" Meant For Me
What I Hope "Victim Is Not Your Name Tag" Means For You
Introducing Concept #4 - "What Is Truth?"
The Big Idea
Guidance Tips - Deny, Distort, Distract
Guidance Tips - Inviting Others In
Unpacking Exercise #1 - Addressing The Past
Guidance Tips - Why Truth?
Unpacking Exercise #2 -Defining Immovable Truth
What This Means For Me - Worksheet
What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet
Introducing Concept #5 - How To Get Out Of The Box
What Is Truth?
Deny, Distort, Distract
Inviting Others In
How To Invite Them In
Exercise #1 - Naming Your Truth
Exercise #2 - What Is Truth? - Part 2
What The Concept "What Is Truth?" Meant For Me
What I Hope "What Is Truth?" Means For You
Introducing Concept #5 - "How To Get Out Of The Box"
The Big Idea
Guidance Tips - Assigning Appropriate Responsibility
Unpacking Exercise #1 - The Letter
Guidance Tips - Adding Professional Help
Guidance Tips - Name Your Box
Guidance Tips - The Open Flap
What This Means For Me - Worksheet
What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet
Introducing Concept #6 - Breaking Cause And Effect
Out Of The Box
Assigning Appropriate Responsibility
Exercise #1 - Revisiting The Letter
Exercise #2 - Name Your Box
Processing The Exercise
The Open Flap
What The Concept "How To Get Out Of The Box" Meant For Me
What I Hope "How To Get Out Of The Box" Means For You
Introducing Concept #6 - Breaking Cause And Effect
The Big Idea
Unpacking Exercise #1 - Breaking It Down
Guidance Tips - Being Bitter
Guidance Tips - Attending To Bitterness
What This Meant For Me - Worksheet
What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet
Introducing Concept #7 - "The 5 Journey Markers Of Wholeness"
Breaking Broken Cause And Effect
X & Y
Breaking It Apart
Processing The Break
Defining Bitterness
Defining Jaded
Three Ways To Break Broken
Have A Conversation
Place Boundaries
Walk Away
What The Concept "Breaking Cause And Effect" Meant For Me
What I Hope The Concept "Breaking Cause And Effect" Means For You
Introducing Concept #7 - The 5 Journey Markers Of Wholeness
The Big Idea
Guidance Tips - Summarizing The Markers
Guidance Tips - Using The Worksheets
Guidance Tips - Self-Care During Ownership
Guidance Tips - Guilt Versus Shame
Guidance Tips - Community Mourning
What This Means For Me - Worksheet
What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet
Introducing Concept #8 - "Schedule Silence"
The Journey
Realize
Realization And Wholeness
Exercise #1 - Processing Realization
Acknowledge
Identify
Self-Care During Ownership
Guilt & Shame
To Identify - Part 2
Accept
Community Mourning
Proceed
What The Concept "The 5 Journey Markers Of Wholeness" Have Meant For Me
What I Hope "The 5 Journey Markers Of Wholeness" Mean For You
Introducing Concept #8 - Schedule Silence
The Big Idea
Guidance Tips - Defining Silence
Unpacking Exercise #1 - Why Silence?
Guidance Tips - Using Silence
Unpacking Exercise #2 - Processing Together
What This Means For Me - Worksheet
What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet
Introducing Concept #9 - "What If Tomorrow Were Stronger Than Yesterday?"
To Schedule Silence
Making Time
Noisy Silence
Exercise #1 - Entering Silence
Plan For Silence
Exercise #2 - Diving In
What "Scheduling Silence" Meant For Me
What I Hope "Scheduling Silence" Means For You
Introducing Concept #9 - What If Tomorrow Were Stronger Than Yesterday?
The Big Idea
Unpacking Exercise #1 - Defining Restoration
Guidance Tips - The Hook
Guidance Tips - Owning Personal Responsibility
Unpacking Exercise #2 - Finding Roadblocks
What This Means For Me - Worksheet
What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet
Introducing Concept #10 - "You Are More"
What If Tomorrow Were Stronger Than Yesterday?
Kintsugi
Restoration - The Starting Point
Exercise #1 - Processing Restoration
No Origin
Trauma's Short Circuit
I Did This
Revisiting The Distinction Between Guilt & Shame
What The Concept "What If Tomorrow Were Stronger Than Yesterday?" Meant For Me
What I Hope The Concept "What If Tomorrow Were Stronger Than Yesterday?" Means For You
Introducing Concept #10 - "You Are More"
The Big Idea
Guidance Tips - Three Sources
Guidance Tips - Let Them Rise
They Are Not
They Are
They Are Becoming
They Will Be
What This Means For Me - Worksheet
What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet
Introducing Concept #11 - "Failure Is Not Your Identity"
The Value
The Voices
External Voices
"Self-Preservation" Speaks
The Internal Voice
Let Them Rise
You Are Not
You Are
You Are Becoming
You Will Be
The Warrior Voice
What The Concept "You Are More" Meant For Me
What I Hope The Concept "You Are More" Means For You
Introducing Concept #11 - "Failure Is Not Your Identity"
The Big Idea
Guidance Tips - The 5 Keys
Maneuver Through Shock Or Shame
Seek The Diamond
Assign Grace
Learn
Find The Open Door
Unpacking Exercise #1 - Processing "Failure"
What This Means For Me - Worksheet
What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet
Introducing Concept #12 - Choosing Hope
Not Your Identity
Which Net?
Maneuver Through
Seek The Diamond
Assign Yourself Grace
Brutus
Amanda
Learn
Find The Open Door
Exercise #1 - Processing "Failure"
What The Concept "Failure Is Not Your Identity" Meant For Me
What I Hope "Failure Is Not Your Identity" Means For You
Introducing Concept #12 - "Choosing Hope"
The Big Idea
Guidance Tips - Defining Hope
Guidance Tips - Sourcing Hope
Guidance Tips - A Word About Having Conversations About Hope
Unpacking Exercise #1 - Defining Perspective
Guidance Tips - Building Legacy
What This Means For Me - Worksheet
What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet
Introducing Concept #13 - "Perseverance And Endurance"
The Spark
What Is Hope?
Placing Hope
Exercise #1 - Contemplating Hope
The Tension
Pictures Of Hope
My Relationship With Hope
My Reason For Hope
Exercise #2 - How Hope Creates A Legacy
What The Concept "Choosing Hope" Meant For Me
What I Hope The Concept "Choosing Hope" Means For You
Introducing Concept #13 - Perseverance And Endurance
The Big Idea
Guidance Tips - What It's Not
Guidance Tips - Processing Builds Perseverance
Allowed To Rest
Allowed To Play
Allowed To Invest
Allowed To Dream
Guidance Tips - The Art Of Reset
Guidance Tips - Community
What This Means For Me - Worksheet
What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet
Introducing Concept #14 - "Define Your Why"
What Is Perseverance And Endurance?
What It's Not
Overriding "Suck It Up"
The Ripple Effect
Seek What Refuels
You Are Allowed To Rest
You Are Allowed To Play
You Are Allowed To Invest In You
You Are Allowed To Dream
The Reset
Seeking Community
We Train In Community
What The Concept "Perseverance And Endurance" Meant For Me
What I Hope "Perseverance And Endurance" Means For You
Introducing Concept #14 - "Define Your Why"
The Big Idea
Unpacking Exercise #1 - Defining Motivation
Unpacking Exercise #2 - Discovering Why
Guidance Tips - Why We Didn't
Guidance Tips - The Plan
What This Means For Me - Worksheet
What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet
Introducing Concept #15 - Fake It Till You Make It
Define Your Why
Why I Fight - Exercise #1 - Define Your Why
Why Do We Rise?
Give Yourself Time
Exercise #2 - Pressing On
Why I Didn't
A Safety Plan
What The Concept "Define Your Why" Meant For Me
What I Hope "Define Your Why" Means For You
Introducing Concept #15 - "Fake It Till You Make It"
The Big Idea
Guidance Tips - Trying Something New
Guidance Tips - Setting A Boundary
Guidance Tips - Learning To Share
Guidance Tips - Building A Team
Unpacking Exercise #1
Guidance Tips - Lent Before Learned
Unpacking Exercise #2
What This Means For Me - Worksheet
What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet
Introducing Concept #16 - Find Your 'But"
What "Fake It Till You Make It" Means
Defining "Faking"
Trying Something New
Setting A Boundary
Learning To Share
Building A Team
Exercise #1 - Processing The Feeling Of "Fake"
Re-Instill Hope
Lent Before Learned
Exercise #2 - Processing Confidence And Courage
What The Concept "Fake It Till You Make It" Meant For Me
What I Hope "Fake It Till You Make It" Means For You
Introducing Concept #16 - "Find Your 'But'"
The Big Idea
Unpacking Exercise #1
Unpacking Exercise #2
Unpacking Exercise #3
Guidance Tips - How To Argue Well
What This Means For Me - Worksheet
What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet
Introducing Concept #17 - "How To Hold Onto The New"
Find Your "But"
The Third Option
Exercise #1 - Unpacking The Story
Continuing To Unpack
Back To Reality
How To Argue Well
What The Concept "Find Your 'But'" Meant For Me
What I Hope "Find Your 'But'" Means For You
Introducing Concept #17 - "How To Hold Onto The New"
The Big Idea
Guidance Tips - Rewriting The Story
Guidance Tips - Watching Speech
Guidance Tips - Taking Calculated Risks
Guidance Tips - Teaching Others
Guidance Tips - Who You Are
Unpacking Exercise #1
What This Means For Me - Worksheet
What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet
Introducing Concept #18 - "How To Find Support"
Holding On
Rewrite Your Story
Exercise #1 - Reflecting On Your Shift
Watch Your Speech - Exercise #2: Old Versus New
Take Calculated Risks - Exercise #3: Defining The Risk
Teach Others - Exercise #4: Supporting Others
Getting To Know You
Exercise #5 - But Who Are You?
What The Concept "How To Hold Onto The New" Meant For Me
What I Hope "Holding Onto The New" Means For You
Introducing Concept #18 - "How To Find Support"
The Big Idea
Guidance Tips - Building Your Board
Guidance Tips - Rejecting Abandonment
Guidance Tips - Their Trustworthy Authors
Guidance Tips - Community Gatherings
Guidance Tips - Professional Support
Unpacking Exercise #1 - Making The Ask
Guidance Tips - Vetting Support
What This Means For Me - Worksheet
What I Hope This Means For You - Worksheet
Introducing Concept #19 - "We Are Proud"
Finding It
Building Your Board
The Paper
Where To Turn
Trustworthy Authors
Community Gatherings
Professional Support
Exercise #1 - Starting The Search
Vetting Your Support
What The Concept "How To Find Support" Meant For Me
What I Hope "How To Find Support" Means For You
Introducing Concept #19 - "We Are Proud"
The Big Idea
Guidance Tips - Changing And Changed
Unpacking Exercise #1
Guidance Tips - Celebrate
What This Means For You - Worksheet
We Are Proud
Changed & Changing
Exercise #1 - Changed & Changing
Celebrate You
Our Story As A Bridge
I Changed It
My Story
We're Changing It - Exercise #1: Reflecting Back
Exercise #2 - Continuing To Process
I Am Rooting For You
What I Hope "I Changed It" Means For You
Your Role Is Vital
The Gift Of Going Second
How Do I Help Them? What Do They Need?
Reiterating Why You Offer Support
How To Have Healthy Boundaries
What Do They Need?
How To Use Your Story To Guide Someone Else's
What To Do When Someone Shares About Their Pain Or Struggle
How To Know What To Say When Someone Shares About Trauma, Pain, Or Struggle
What Do I Do If I Don't Have All The Answers?
How To React When Someone Shares About Pain, Trauma, Or Struggle
What If I Hear Something That Feels Too Big To Handle Or Is Triggering?
Learning To Point
What Additional Resources Are Available For Them - And For You
Building A Mental Health Safety Plan
If I Suspect They Are Struggling, Can I Bring It Up?
How To Start Hard Conversations
What To Do If They Push Back Against Help
Helping Someone Process The Distinction Between Guilt And Shame
How To Help Someone Process Assigning Appropriate Responsibility
Helping Someone To See A Future
Giving Them Time To Heal
You Have Not Failed
What Is Wholeness?
Helping Them See Their Identity
Training On How To Help Them Process
